Psychotherapy and counselling in Hackney, East London and online
I am a psychotherapist working in Hackney, East London. Sessions can be online or on the telephone when necessary.
When you are experiencing difficulties in relationships or at work, suffering from anxiety or depression or feeling frustrated and stuck, friends and colleagues will often advise you to open up.
Sometimes it isn't that easy, however. If we don’t know why we want to talk or to whom, if we worry that the very person we could speak to might misunderstand, if we fear that they could be hurt by what we say or could hurt us, if we think we are not entitled to a fair hearing anyway, if we don’t know what it is we want to say – or can’t bear to say it - then it’s not so simple.
In psychotherapy this is acknowledged. The relationship we have with ourselves and with others is the most complex part of our lives. In the consulting room we work together to explore how you feel about that complexity and how it has led you to behave in all the ways you do; the process of analysing it can allow both an appreciation of what is positive and enjoyable and a change in what is unhelpful.
Take, for example, the enormous range of possible reactions to the Covid19 pandemic. Some people might be anxious, others angry, or disgusted, bored, lonely, even delighted to be spared social or family obligations, or all of those in succession or at once. No two people will be feeling the same way at the same time, and each reaction is moulded by the individual's experience. Unfortunately, there is often pressure to be a certain way, and, depending on our past history, this can give rise to a range of feelings - depression or guilt, for example - that we may not even recognise as themselves, much less know how to allay in conversation with ourselves. In fact, trying to think it out alone can often feel as though it only deepens the mystery.
The reasons for those many differences can come from a history that involves remembered trauma, including abuse, the prejudices of others, abandonment or bereavement, extreme stress or difficult early relationships or issues with sexuality. Often, however, the factors that contribute have been forgotten entirely, or leave only hazy traces in the memory.
In psychoanalytic psychotherapy sessions we can take the time to unravel what you are feeling, why that is, and what you want to do with that knowledge. I can work with you carefully, constructively, imaginatively and without judging; it's important for you to feel you can trust your psychotherapist.
If you are thinking of psychotherapy and counselling in Hackney, East London contact me using the link opposite to discuss an exploratory session. I will be happy to talk to you about your hopes - and, if you have them, hesitations - about psychotherapy and what it might be like to work with a psychotherapist.
My consulting room is in Clapton, within easy reach of Homerton, Hackney Central and Hackney Downs stations and walkable from Dalston Kingsland, Hackney Wick and Stoke Newington